Players: Eight best friends.
For as long as we have known each other, us eight girls have believed we were cursed. We named the curse after our school. It was the only thing we had in common, thus, the only thing we could blame the reason of our conditions of the curse on. The curse is not academic. We were all romantically cursed. The curse is not permanent, but while we’re cursed, its torturous. All the men we wanted were all those who belonged to a group called “wrong” ie: wrong religion, wrong country, wrong community, wrong timing etc etc.
So far, only three of us managed to escape the curse and that too in really weird ways. Literally “escape”. For example, Ash got married when we were 18. :S yes. You read that right. 18! To someone she did not know much less like. We thought the curse has taken its sacrificial lamb without us having to even put her up for the slaughter. It was only last year due to a horrible incident, did we realize what an incredible blessing this marriage had been. M, after having suffered the curse for nearly ten years, badly and brutally, met her mr.right online. Yes you read that correctly too. ONLINE! She married him two years ago. Sai also got married two years ago. She did the unthinkable by marrying the impossible. But it was in the name of true love.
Whereas Ash accepted what she thought was life-long curse, M shook it off with passion and Sai calculatingly defied it. The remaining 5 of us were still battling our curses though. Each inflicted with a different disaster.
Three days ago Al announced she is getting married in June. THIS june. She decided to marry F. After 6 years of knowing him, 1 month of dating him then leaving him, being best friends with him for the next 7 months, not speaking to him for that last four weeks- the curse I think got tangled in it’s own web of deceit and probably got exhausted! Al was always the boss and she made the curse give her up.
So, in the name of the game this curse has played with us best friends, I want to say congratulations to Al…it gives me great pleasure to declare that for you my friend it's
GAME OVER!
That leaves four of us now. Still battling our curses, still enduring the disasters :P but i have faith, we shall find our unique ways to fight this off in the coming months. ( im being optimistic and not saying years :P)
cheers! [that's for you khizzy ;)]
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36 comments:
is the curse contagious? cuz i think ive caught it from you.
lol...you sadist.
CHEERS to you too.
cheers.
:D
its actually quiet addictive.lol.
cheers.woohoo.
dude, its 3am. i really should sleep.
ok last time.
cheers.
cant wait to hear your eventual story one day, of shrugging off the curse. needless to say the jewellerys ready!
"wrong religion, wrong country, wrong community"
Should that really matter in today's liberal world Kay?
khizzy: honest its not meant to be contagious :P maybe you were cursed since before i me you :P
1302- lol yes. ofcourse the jewelry is ready. thank to you and kookie :P
APOO: sometimes they do. in our cases they did. i cant speak for the world or for everyone...but for some of us , long distance relationships took its toll, wrong community showed us that practically it wouldn't work and wrong religion....well I don't know if you know this, but unlike the Muslim male, Muslim females are not allowed to marry outside Islam.
it has nothing to do with how liberal you are, some rules just aren't meant to be broken :)
And then there were Four.... Lol. really liked the way you wrote this one. Funny in places without trying to be, sad in places, happy in others....and so real, all over the place. Enjoyed it thoroughly.
Double lol@jammie's comment that jewelry is ready.:P
aslam: why do you keep deleting your messaged? :P
i read it though! :)
sadia: thank you. this was written after an awesome two hours of chilling with my girlfriends. :)
and yes jammie is too funny...
i remember we were out at one of those PC exhibitions after a family brunch....just wandering around and she came across this kundun set....fell in love with it and insisted my mom buy it then and there for my wedding.
this is almost two years ago...
:P
its still sitting there waiting for me to find a boy!
haha
You've a really interesting blog! (:
Hi Kay,
I think the curse is contagious, b'cause me and my girl-friends here in Europe got it to.
"wrong religion, wrong country, wrong community" oo men this is so familiar. And so frustrated. And we are not all Muslim but even than, we got this problem.
Let we hope each of us gets a Happy Ending or shall I say a New Beginning
noor ali: thank you :)
aslam: "provoking line"? as in the last post? sigh.. yes well..
i have no idea about arranged marriages market...noone in my family went for it :P
but thats a whole new post.
joyce: may you and your friends shed the curse off in creative ways too :P
yaaayy.. for curse breaking and happily ever afters! gives me and my bffs hope too! :) (Chronic curse syndrome here too... 3 hands went up from the original 7 :-D)
May we live to see Kay wielding the sword victoriously over the curse as well! :)
wow
i feel like im watching desperate housewives
S:
mercy be on everyone
jadedworld: amen to that!
batster: desperate? erm...thats a lil harsh.
its just in good fun- none of us are begging to be dragged to the altar. we do have careers and lives you know.
aslam: whats provoking about it? i didnt make that rule :P its a known fact!
Y.H said: "do women talk about anything other than marraige? why not breast cancer or feeding the poor"
i don't mean you kAy but generally women.
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sorry for the copy paste!
Relax and have some faith in Shadi.com, its a solution to all superstitions
Valkyrie: are you from india? because shaadi.com here isnt as cool as it is in india. ive seen some really cool ads india has done for such websites.
have i come across as worried in this post? :P come on people...!i'll worry when i hit 30!
Aslam: its all exactly as he said it.
only adjustment was that i changed my name.
Y.H: that was a silly thing to say and i wont dignify that comment with a proper reply because you and i and everyone else on this blog knows thats not true. :)
no, it is true...
beg to differ with YH- women talk of a LOT else- its just that for some reason marriage (culturally) has become the defining point of change for most women- sometimes because its an inevitale future so plans are made around it here and there- and in other cases,as a beacon of light who have for those who have perhaps not had the opportunity to explore their horizons in other ways. that said, it is a bit of a general statement there that you made- :D
YH: methinks you are playing your old game where you are deliberately trying to be obnoxious.
It seems like Kay and Leaving1302 have similiar undertones. If one were to ask me, I would say that they were sisters but of course not, why would I say that? Anonymity it is ;)
L1302, you hit the nail on the head. And I say you just reaffirmed the point I was trying to make. Our society is marriage-obsessed more than Western societies. Almost everything (and not trying to generalize or anything) revolves around the institution of marriage (especially for larkis). I know countless number of women who think that age is a barrier that grows bigger as time goes on. And they talk about marriage obsessively. But here's the point that I was trying to make. Marriage is not and should not be the be all and end all. Women can do so much more even if they're not married. I seriously think women are smarter than men and have more successful careers. So what if we're not married? The stigma is only social.
However, I do admit that I did take a very general, stereotypical view but if Kay hadn't so politely deleted my comment, it was more out of frustration at my mom than anything else. Poor woman wants to see a girl in this male-infested house of mine. And I'm the nearest person she can vent on.
PS: I am NOT obnoxious.
YH: its no secret we are sisters -everyone knows-(your point?)
anyway, i would say the typicial "you-wouldnt-understand-you-are-not-a-woman-blah-blah-blah" but this is such a cliched and exhausted debate.
i dont agree with anything you have said aside from you admitting you have taken a stereotypical view.
and i really dont want to get into this debate coz its soo overdone :P
ps: i did not mean you were obnoxious. you are....hmm now how did you describe yourself to me?.... "smart assy"?
:)
LOL
aslam- YH and i are not fighting :P
we've known each other for like 10 years! i used to give him these long speeches when i was 15 years old :P
So kay, are you trying to say that you've ALWAYS been a drama queen?
Cos we know that's not true. You were a princess once upon a time. Graduation to queenship has been very recent.
And didn't you always think that I was this depressed, sordid teenager who needed some guidance otherwise I would end up hanging off a noose?
You were so wrong and still are. All women are evil (except my mom). Aslam, you would agree yeah?
Jokes.
this is growing more personal-
spare the bloggers with your ranting please.
its also irrelevant to the post.
your depression and what you think i thought of you are best discussed over email-clearly you agree this is not an open forum discussion given the incidents involved.
ps: evil is a relative term.
Aslam: :P nice try.
True. I need to keep my mouth shut more.
TO ALL: Marriage or no marriage!it's romance that is NOT there. As humans we try to find the "perfect one" with ALL the qualities, minus some.
Maybe it's 'bout time we find the perfect "many" instaed of the one; to suit all events/moods etc. Coz the ONE may not stand by, but out of the many one will at all times- even just for entertainment purposes.
A typical girly reply would be "Oh, but i want one whose child i shall bear, and grow old with" yatta yatta.
culture + tradition says u cannot have more than A partner at a time. Keeping religion out, if a man can have more than one at a time for whatever reason; so can women; and perhaps do a better job at it. As is, women are better at multi-tasking.
In conclusion, u'll have no regrets being single at 50. There is no pressure on time running out, but there ARE some things which when enjoyed in the youth cannot compare with old age romace.
Single at 50 atleast thou shall have tasted romance than to have lived a fantasy!
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